The Feminization of the Family


The Holy Family with the Little Bird, circa 1650 Giclee Print by Bartolome Esteban Murillo

                   “The family has been feminized because men retreated from their duty… [And] because the church failed to expose, denounce, and answer the lies of the feminists… Men must prove themselves men and shoulder the full load of responsibility given to them by God. Men must stop being intimidated by feminist rhetoric and radicals, and fearlessly promote God’s order for the family. The task of reconstructing the family according to God’s law…will also require the church to faithfully teach what the Bible says concerning the Family. It will require preachers of the courage and conviction of John Knox and John Calvin to expose the lies of feminist dogma and preach the Biblical pattern for the family.”

William Einwechter, The feminization of the Family

When doing research on this topic I came across a multitude of different ideas as to why the church to day has become feminised, which in turn feminized the family.

Here are some small articles as how some perceive church today and how some want the church to move even more towards feminism.

1)       I set out in this book to explore the extent to which we
may speak of the feminisation of the church. Recognizing
that the term is an ambiguous one, I examined some of the
meanings attached to it, and spelled out what I mean by a
feminized church. The church’s feminization, as I understand
it, will be complete when women’s presence, voice, expe­
rience, history, gifts, energy and creativity are fully recog­
nized and given free rein, and when women’s power in the
church is commensurate with their service and responsibility.

The Feminization of the Church?  Book by Kaye Ashe; Sheed & Ward, 1997.

2)          Church attendance in the United States is about 60 percent female and 40 percent male. The more liberal the denomination, the higher the percentage of females.

Wherever Western Christianity has spread, the Church has become feminized. Rosemary Reuther observes: “In Germany, France, Norway, and Ireland women are 60 to 65 percent of the active churchgoers. In Korea, India, and the Philippines, women are 65 to 70 percent of the active churchgoers.”

 Western Christianity has become part of the feminine world from which men feel they must distance themselves to attain masculinity. That is why men stay away from church, especially when they see that the men involved in church tend to be less masculine. The most religious denominations, those that have the most external display, have the worst reputation. Anglo-Catholics were lambasted in the Victorian press as unmanly because they devoted themselves to lace and plaster statues (in some cases, this criticism was justified). Psychological studies have detected a connection between femininity in men and interest in religion. There may even be a physical difference. Among men, football players and movie actors have the highest testosterone level, ministers, the lowest. Success and self-esteem can even change hormonal levels. Wow, there is a connection between femininity in men and interest in religion. It wasn’t always this way.

Anecdotal evidence indicates that this pattern of greater female piety goes back far before the Reformation. Even medieval preachers made reference to women as being more active in the church. Berthold von Regensburg noticed that more women than men attended church. He preaches to “you women, who are more merciful than men and go more willingly to church than men and say your prayers more willingly than men and go to sermons more willingly than men.”

The men in our pulpits for many years have been simply jury-rigged women; when the request comes to bring in the real thing, on what principle will the request be denied? We cannot say that we must have masculinity in the pulpit because we do not have that now.

For well over a century in the American church, the norms of spirituality have been the standards set by a saccharine Victorian feminism. ( taken from The Church Impotent: The Feminization of Christianity Podles            The Feminization of the Church by the Jolly Blogger

  3)      When i hear the discussion about he “feminization” of the church, my mind jumps to two things.
The topics discussed are usually focused on emotional “girly” actions in church. Some guys don’t love singing, or find really sentimental prayer times or speaking really “weak” or “feminine.” I think the problem isn’t the “feminization” of the church, the real issue people have is with the “emotional” church vs. a church service with attitude, motorcycles, and grunting.

The real issue comes down to sexuality and understanding of gender. Those that claim men should be “manly” and girls are just “girly” seem to be the ones who are heading this discussion (correct me if I’m wrong).    feminization” of the church comment by Adam Lehman.

 Okay enough of such nonsense. This is why feminization has occurred and what the remedy is for it.

Women have been lied to!

taken from, A wise woman builds here house blog.

The statement below is from Puristism today where I found this article and I agree with his statement. As well as with some Christmas articles( I do not celebrate christmass or other pagan festivals. But that is another blog. 

I must say that I came across something on this blog which may indicate that it is not as doctrinally conservative as the above post is on femininity. I therefore can only recommend the above post and not the website as such. However be that as it may, the website no doubt still has a great deal of useful material – as someone has said, ‘the pictures alone make it beneficial to the cause of biblical femininity’.   G.M

I want to get straight to the heart of the issue and expose some of the many and greatest lies of feminism. As you read through this list, honestly ask yourself which of these lies you may have believed in the past or present in some form or another.

Shall we begin? (drumroll)

1.I have my rights.

2. I can have it all.3. I should not have to live with unfulfilled longings.

4. A career outside the home is more valuable and fulfilling than being a wife and mother.

5. It’s all about me.

6. If my husband is passive I need to lead.

7. If I submit, I’ll be miserable.

8. I have to have ________ to make me happy.

9. Children are a hindrance and a burden.

 10. Women are smarter than men.

These are only 10 lies that I have chosen that I think are the most common in our culture and of which women seem to fall prey to most frequently. These lies are most dangerous as many of them seek to weaken the family unit in one way or another (a form of Marxism). It takes the focus of of living a life for God and doing all we can for His glory and instead creates false idols that we worship secretly. These lies keep us from living out full lives as God intended and how He designed us to be. Feminism hinders us from receiving God’s best. Feminism keeps us miserable, unsatisfied and always longing for more—while God’s ways are focused on joy of the Lord, satisfaction in the Cross and contentment for His grace is sufficient.I know that growing up I was exposed to a barrage feminism in schools, books, television, magazines, movies, music, peers, billboards, role models, etc. It was rampant and everywhere in culture (much like a brainwashing) and still is today. Like Satan whispering to Eve in the garden, these lies whisper to us throughout the course of the day when we are taking care of our homes, raising the children, supporting our husbands, etc. Satan is trying his best to get our attention for he knows if he can thwart our efforts and attentions we will abandon our roles. We will abandon our homes. We will abandon our position as helpmeet and mothers. He knows we can’t train the next generation of godly seed if we are focused on ourselves. We can’t disciple nations if we are wallowing in a pool of self-pity.

Wake up, ladies! The trumpet is sounding, get back to your posts! The enemy lurks and wants your children, your marriage, your home! As Christian women we must know how vital our roles are in society, we must understand that we are the cornerstones in helping to build strong, Christian societies in our nation today….but if we abandon our roles we contribute to it’s demise and destruction. We abandon it by forsaking our roles and chasing after the lies.

Feminism has stolen so much from Christianity and America. If we are faithful and diligent we can reclaim it. But it begins with you. Stop listening to the fatal lies and turn back to the pure, holy Word of God for your source of life and direction.

(Some parts of the list are from the book Lies Women Believeby Nancy Leigh Demoss)

“To promote a woman to bear rule, superiority, dominion, or empire above any realm, nation, or city, is repugnant to nature…A thing most contrary to His revealed will and approved ordinance.” – John Knox

 Here are some sermons that I encourage you to read. Please pray before you listen and ask God to show you and confirm what these messages say.

Idolatry and the Feminization of Christianity, Part I,2,3a,3b   at

I was very lost when it came to my role as a wife, mother. As I learned how to be a helpmeet my life drastically changed. I found that my life seemed to become more simple, less confusing. When I gave up my control and allowed my husband to be head of the household I found as well that the Lord began to open my eyes to more of His wonderful truths. I believe that the more obediant you are to the word  the more that God reveals His truth to you.

Titus 2:4-5 “ . . . . that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” The word “keeper” is translated “stayer.”

I Pet.3:1 “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation (behavior) of the wives; while they behold your chaste conversation (behavior) coupled with fear.“

Col.3:14,16,18 “And above all these things put on charity (love), which is the bond of perfectness . . . Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom . . . Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.”

Eph. 5:22 “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.”

Here is another article that is called :     A Womens Place

Blessings Debbie


Mother and Child, c.1885 Art Print by Francis Coates Jones


About Debylin

The Lord is gracious and is just and I am thankful that He has before the foundations of the World chosen a remnant to call His own.
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2 Responses to The Feminization of the Family

  1. Ann says:

    Few men are good leaders in the home…too many men are self-gratifiers who do not step up as providers. This is why so many women choose to go it alone, they are capable of doing it themselves, including raising the children. The problem is not feminism, (feminism gives women hope and purpose)…the problem is a culture that allows men to do what they want, when they want, without regard for their responsibilities to family. I know many many women who have worked and developed a career, supported the family, paid the bills, raised the children without the men because they could not count on the men.

    • Debylin says:

      There is a wonderful Book that I would recommend. It is called Created to be his Helpmeet. Biblically speaking we were created to help the man. I know that it can be hard if you feel you have to wear the pants in the family, but we are called to step back and allow the man to make the decisions…. whether right or wrong. Our obedience is to God which indicates that we are to submit to our husbands no matter what. This can be hard I know, but If we are called to live in Obedience to God then we are to humble ourselves and walk according to truth not according to the world. Believe me blessings will come out of this. Man was created for God, woman was created for man. We can’t count on men because we have usurped their roles and want to be them. I was once there and found no peace in this. Not until I learned what my true purpose was according to scripture that I began to have peace of mind and truly glorified God in my role. I am still learning to submit and love my husband as I should because God and His ways are more important then me being in charge and having a career. Besides we are in sin if we take control. I want to be found faithful on that day when I stand before God. As we all will stand one day.

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