Modesty

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In the past few days a lot of the children where I work have been asking me how come I wear skirts all the time. Come to think of it they are the only ones who have asked me. Not one of my co-workers have said a thing and I have been wearing skirts and dressing modestly for… lets see close to 9 months now! I also wear head coverings and again only the children have asked me why. Strange considering I am told that all the other girls I work with are christians.  Interesting!  I am very honest with some of the older children who ask me why the headcoverings and why the skirts.The girls say they would like to wear dresses or skirts but their mom won’t let them as it is to cold. I talk to them about what the bible says in how we should dress. Some day I am sure a parent is going to ask me why I fill their children’s head with such things… but until then I will continue to tell the truth. Really no matter what they ask I will tell them the truth when it comes to life and what God thinks of it. I just pray that some seeds are planted and that I am an example of modesty. What the young girls wear today is appauling. I am not sure you can buy a top with out it saying something. Princess, cute, attitude are some of the many sayings that are on tops these days. Where I work there is a group of 4 year old girls who I call the little diva’s. These girls wear clothing that I find inappropriate. Tops that suggest that they are a diva, short skirts, things that a teenager would wear but made smaller. Parents think this is cute. These girls talk about who looks pretty and who doesn’t. They come in sunglasses and jewelery, and carry the attitude of a snob… at four years old! Modesty is lost and parents are creating a generation of brainless fashion statements who care more about their attire then their character…. SAD and WICKED.

An example of the now young women

ldd_abcs_update_qcsxThe Godly woman that God commands us to be:

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. ~ I Timothy 2:9,10
An Interesting Article, A must Read!!!

MODEST APPAREL

By David J. Riggs

Intro.
   A. We are living in a loose and lascivious age.
      1. There is a swarm of immodesty on the streets, in the movies,
         and on television.
   B. Modest Apparel is one of those subjects that needs to be taught
      often by all teachers and preachers of God's word.
      1. A faithful older Christian once said, "There are some
         subjects that we need a lesson on every year." This is
         definitely one of them.
   C. This subject is not one that is to be laughed at, scoffed at,
      or made light of.
      1. Not only should the preacher preach on it often, but also
         the older sisters are responsible before God to teach the
         younger. Titus 2:3-6
      2. They should set a good example and teach the younger the
         divine principles that relate to this subject.

I. THE WEARING OF CLOTHES IN PUBLIC IS NECESSARY.
   A. After Adam and Eve sinned, they tried to clothe themselves.
      Gen. 3:7-11
      1. Their aprons of fig leaves apparently were not enough. Gen.
         3:21
         a. God intends that our bodies be clothed.
         b. A Christian could not be a member of a "nudist" or
            "near-nudist" colony.
   B. Under the Old Testament they were to be fully clothed.
      1. They wore long flowing robes. Deut. 22:11-12; Num. 15:37-
         38
      2. Men and women were to be distinguished from each other.
         Deut. 22:5
         a. It is a shame when our young men cannot be
            distinguished from our young ladies or vice versa.
         b. "Effeminacy" is condemned in the N.T. 1 Cor. 6:9
            (1) "Effeminate" means "soft to touch...a male who
                submits his body to unnatural lewdness" (Thayer),
                "having marked womanlike traits of character"
                (Webster).
         c. Thus, men should avoid women's traits (clothing, hair
            styles, etc.) and women should avoid men's traits
            (clothing, hair styles, etc.)

II. THE NEW TESTAMENT REGULATES THE QUALITY AND QUANTITY OF CLOTHING.
   A. The Christian woman should examine her clothing under the
      following divine principles.
      1. Chaste. 1 Pet. 3:1-6
         a. A basic definition for the word "chaste" (vs. 2) is
            "pure, holy, modest, decent."
         b. The ladies are not to rely on outward appearance for
            their attractiveness, but on the unseen virtues of the
            heart. (Vs. 3-6)
      2. Modest. 1 Tim. 2:9
         a. The word "modest" means, "orderly, well-arranged,
            decent, respectable." It is an outward sign of an inward
            chastity or purity.
         b. Thus, in choosing what to wear, the first question the
            Christian woman must ask herself, "Is it modest"? If it
            is questionable, she cannot wear it. Rom. 14:22-23
      3. Shamefacedness. 1 Tim. 2:9 (Shamefastness, ASV)
         a. The word "shamefacedness" means, "a sense of shame,
            bashful, blushing, ashamed." Hence, she is conscious of
            that which could bring shame or disgrace, and avoids it.
         b. The godly woman would be ashamed if her clothing were
            not right.
         c. The Israelites in Jeremiah's time were at the point where
            they could not be ashamed or blush. Jer. 6:16; 8:12
         d. Clothing which exposes too much of one's body should
            cause shame and blushing.
         e. Our young girls need to be taught early in age what is
            shameful and what is not; otherwise, they will not be
            ashamed to wear immodest clothing.
      4. Sobriety. 1 Tim. 2:9
         a. The word "sobriety" means, "using good, sound
            judgment; good sense."
         b. There is nothing worse than a beautiful woman without
            discretion. Prov. 11:22; 12:4
            (1) A beautiful woman without good sense can cause
                much embarrassment to the righteous.
      5. Professing godliness. 1 Tim. 2:10
         a. The word "godliness" means, "...to be devout; denotes
            that piety which, characterized by a Godward attitude,
            does that which is well-pleasing to God." (Vine).
         b. One young lady said that she sought out the most godly
            women she knew, and looked at what they wore, and
            followed their example. We could reverse this--avoid
            wearing that which the ungodly women wear.
      6. Free from lasciviousness.
         a. A basic definition of the word "lasciviousness" is,
            "wanton, lewd, tending to produce lewd emotions;
            having or producing unlawful sexual desires."
         b. Lasciviousness is a work of the flesh. Gal. 5:19
         c. If the clothing a woman wears draws attention to the
            intimate parts of her body, she is wearing lascivious
            clothing.
         d. Shorts, halters, bathing suits, bikinis, transparent
            blouses, very tight knit blouses, skin-tight slacks, the
            mini shirts, and such like are apparel which draw
            attention to the secret parts of a woman.
         e. When Mary Quant, the designer of the mini skirt, was
            interviewed, she said, "This apparel is typical of a
            woman trying to seduce a man." (See Mary Quant,
            mother of the mini skirt in McCalls, March, 1970).
   B. Christian women must recognize and obey the divine principles.
      1. If her clothing is not in accord with the divine principles,
         she sins whether she has evil intentions or not.
         a. She needs to realize that she lives in a world with men
            and needs to know something about men.
         b. It is true that when a man "looks" and "lusts," if he
            does not repent, he will be lost. Matt. 5:27-28
         c. However, if she encourages lust by her scanty attire,
            whether intentionally or unintentionally, she sins. 1
            Cor. 8:12; Matt. 18:7-9
         d. Christian women, are you willing to be responsible for
            the downfall of a man by exposing your body to him?
   C. Bear in mind that the principles which apply to women
      regarding modest apparel, also apply to men. Men's clothing
      must be in accord with the divine regulations.
      1. Men should be careful to dress in such a way as to not cause
         lust.
      2. Furthermore, the Christian man must stay away from night
         clubs, beaches, corrupt movies, reading and looking at
         certain magazines, and certain TV programs where
         lasciviousness is running rampant.
         a. Christian men, are you deliberately placing yourselves in
            jeopardy? 1 Thess. 5:22
   D. When men and women recognize the divine principles and put
      them into practice, their clothing will be modest and free from
      lasciviousness.

III. SOME OFT-HEARD REASONS FOR WEARING SCANTY ATTIRE.
   A. "What may be modest in one country may not be in another
      and vice versa."
      1. Men of any country aren't that much different from each
         another. Acts 17:26
         a. They all know what parts of the body are sexually
            appealing.
      2. God's principles are not limited to geographical boundaries.
         a. Some barbaric tribes may not dress properly, but as
            soon as they learn God's principles, they will change.
   B. "I can't help it if others have a filthy mind."
      1. Of course, a man could lust after a woman and the woman
         not be at fault.
      2. However, if she is not following the divine principles, she
         sins as well.
         a. In reality, by her immodest clothing she shows that she
            is the one with the filthy mind. She wants to make an
            impression on others, but it has an opposite effect on
            the righteous; she makes a degrading impression.
   C. "The weather calls for it--it's more comfortable."
      1. If it is lascivious in the summer, it is lascivious in the
         winter.
         a. If it would be all right at the swimming pool, it would
            be at the church services.
         b. The Bible knows no such limitations as place and time.
            God's principle applies anywhere, anytime.
      2. Women need to realize that if they are exposing their
         bodies, men will be watching.
         a. There is almost no privacy. For example, at Auburn
            University, some college girls were nude-sun-bathing on
            top of the girls' dorm and helicopters from a nearby army
            barracks began coming over in great numbers.
   D. "It is fashion; everyone else is wearing them."
      1. Very small children begin making this argument. It is the
         time for much teaching.
      2. Christians are not to be "fashioned" according to this
         world. Rom. 12:2; 2 Cor. 6:14-18
   E. "My husband likes it."
      1. Much of the blame for lascivious clothing can be placed on
         the heads of the households.
      2. The father is the head of the house (Eph. 5:22-23) and needs
         to demand that his wife and children wear modest clothing.
      3. A Christian husband can buy his wife "sexy" clothes if he
         wishes. This is a part of marriage that the Bible encourages
         husband and wife to enjoy. Eccl. 9:9 However, to insist that
         she wear them in the presence of other men is sinful.
         a. If a wife has a husband that requires this, she ought to
            say, "I will obey God rather than man." Acts 5:29

Concl.
   A. May our Christian women wear apparel that demonstrates a meek
      and quiet spirit in all godliness and purity.
      1. May they ever keep the divine principles before them and
         obey them.
      2. Proper clothing must be: chaste, modest, with
         shamefacedness, with sobriety, processing godliness, free
         from lasciviousness.
   B. May our older ladies continually teach our younger.
      1. Young ladies, if you have doubt concerning what you are
         about to wear, ask that godly mother, aunt, grandmother or
         whoever. They will not lead you astray.
      2. Young men, if that young lady who you are dating comes
         out in immodest clothing, say to her, "Please don't wear
         that."
         a. By doing this, you will be building a lasting, wonderful
            relationship.
Chart #1
What Shall I Wear? #1
Consider the law of God:
1. Is my clothing chaste? 1 Pet. 3:1-6
2. Is it modest? 1 Tim. 2:9
3. Does it bring shame or embarrassment? 1 Tim. 2:9
4. Is it in accord with good judgment? 1 Tim. 2:9
5. Does it profess godliness? 1 Tim. 2:10
6. Is it free from lasciviousness? Gal. 5:19

Chart #2
What Shall I Wear? #2
Consider these divine principles:
1. Will it violate my conscience? Rom. 14:23
2. Will it cause others to lust?  Matt. 5:27-28; Gal. 5:19
3. Will this action cause the weak brother to stumble? I Cor. 8:12;
   Matt.18:6
4. Will it hinder my influence? 2 Cor. 3:2; Rom. 14:7
5. Will this action take me among evil companions? 1 Cor. 15:33
6. Does it interfere with my friendship with God? James 4:4
7. Would Jesus do it?  Luke 9:23
8. How does this course of action seem after I've prayed about it?
   Col. 4:2; Rom. 12:12

Chart #3
What shall I Wear #3
Some Oft-heard Excuses For Wearing Scanty Attire:
1. What may be modest in one country may not be in another.
2. What may be modest in one place may not be in another.
3. The weather calls for it; it's more comfortable.
4. It's the fashion; everyone else is wearing them.
5. I can't help it if others have a filthy mind.
6. My husband\mother likes it.

The world is and is becoming increasingly sinful with each generation. They lack moral conscience, respect and Integrity. It is a calgon, take me away from the truth society so I can have it all, fast and without breaking a sweat world. I praise God that He in HIs great mercy revealed truth to me and set me on a path of separation.

Blessing Debylin

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About Debylin

The Lord is gracious and is just and I am thankful that He has before the foundations of the World chosen a remnant to call His own.
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6 Responses to Modesty

  1. Beth says:

    Hello Debbie,

    Thank you for this article. Though it has improved some, my daughter is still wearing inappropriate tops/pants, despite the modesty she was shown when young with those clothes/necklines, and despite what I’m now wearing full time~dresses, skirts/tops, and headdress. She’s 20 and lives here.

    I’ll copy this article and ask her to read it. I won’t be popular for it, but oh well.

    Beth

  2. Hi Sister Debbie,
    I like this article. I don’t know why but my church seems to completely skip over 1 Timothy 2:9-10. I have been at this church for six years and I haven’t heard it mentioned once. What I find sad is when I see 4 year olds wearing pants that have ‘sassy’ written over the bottom area or shirts that say ‘attitude’ over the bust area. What are we teaching their young girls? Modesty is a very important issue in today’s churches.

    Blessings,
    Victoria

  3. nice post! God bless you!

  4. April Bauer says:

    Debylin,
    Thanks for posting this. I have gotten a few questions from women about me wearing skirts full time now. I started last May. It’s funny because when they ask me & I tell them why (God said so but more detail), they start making excuses for why they don’t. I never ask, but you can tell they are obviously convicted a bit if they feel the need to be defensive. When some have commented on my girls wearing dresses & it being cold I just show them my girls bloomers. They are to the ankle & flannel for the winter & just below the knee & cotton for summer time. We can’t go anywhere away from home with out my girls saying how inappropriate at shirt/pants/dress are in a store or on a person, even the 4 yo speaks up. I am thankful the Lord has put this into my heart to be a godly role model about clothes (when I wore pants I was still modest/covered up), it’s so important that my children know all aspects of guarding their hearts. Thanks for letting me share. If you don’t mind I’d like to copy your post to my site. Many blessings! april

  5. LisaM says:

    Such a good post – I must share this lesson. Thank you for posting it.

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