I thought this was a very good article and wanted to share it with you all. I believe as a woman, that it is blessing to have a husband that is the priest of the home. I am thankful for the wonderful teachings that I am receiving and have learned while here in the community. The article was written by my teacher Michael Bunker. Enjoy and be blessed.
Michael, I’m wondering if you would be willing to put your pen to writing about the responsibilities of a man in the position of Prophet, Priest, and King and the practical applications that they involve. If the Christian Virtuous Woman has so much on her plate, I can imagine that loving a wife as Christ loves the Church can be a very important task. Being a relatively newly wed I can imagine that I haven’t begun to understand the responsibility that weighs on my shoulders and I would appreciate your teachings in this matter. Thank you.
Thank you for your question. There is certainly no way to give this topic the attention it desires in this forum, but I will give you a cursory answer and in it I hope you will learn how to find the larger answer. First, since this boils down to loving the wife as Christ loved the Church, it is necessary that we answer some questions…
If Christ loved the Church (and He did), how did that love manifest itself?; and how do we contrast this love with what is taught as “love” by the world today? Did Christ just hold hands with the Church and put up with her tantrums? Did He skip along the beach with her and tell her “I love you just the way you are?” Did He tell her that he was going to share authority with her 50/50 and seek her advice and counsel always? Did He tell her that all the important decisions were up to her and he’d just “go make the money?” Did He tell her He was perfectly happy with her in her sins and rebellions?
In fact, most of how men supposedly love their wives today is not love at all. It is submission to the Devil is what it is, and it is Roman in origin (Romance… anyone?).
Christ loved the Church in such a way that showed that her eternal address was more important to Him than her temporal “happiness” or comfort. He told her to obey Him in all things, without question, and without regard to consequences. He served her by encouraging her, teaching her, chastising her strongly, and demanding that she submit or that she leave. He refused (and refuses) to share her with the world, meaning that he over-rules and rejects her natural proclivities to carnal comfort, domination, self-preservation and esteem, vanity, and worldliness. He promised He would not leave her comfortless, in that He would comfort her IN affliction, IN persecution, IN trials, IN tribulations. He told her that IF she loved Him, she would obey His commandments; and He told her that if she did love Him and obey Him, that she would be hated by her family, friends, and the world. Christ’s love of the Church is such that His rebukes and chastisements are in direct relation to her commitment and submission. If she submits and obeys, she will receive innumerable benefits, both here on earth, and eventually in heaven. If she rebels and refuses to obey, then national Israel was given to her as a threat and a promise of what may become of her. He wrote her letters with great promises and great threatenings, and He encouraged her to read and heed what He wrote to her. He served her best interests, even when that was contrary to what she wanted… including leaving her on earth to go and prepare a place for her. He is living water to her when she is athirst, and He is the Bread of Life to her when she is hungry.
When I see a loud-mouthed, obnoxious woman who calls herself a Christian, I see a husband who has not loved his wife enough. When I see a troublesome meddler, a gossip, or a busy-body, I see a husband who has not loved his wife as Christ loved the Church. When I see a woman who bedevils her husband, nags him, or makes his life less than a blessing, then I see a man who has not loved his wife enough or properly.
Christ loved His wife in such a way that it was necessary for Him to die in order to redeem her from her fallen state. He permitted Himself to be brutalized and crucified in order to propitiate her sins, her errors, and her rebellion. Such is the love that Christ had for the Church.
When the woman looks at her duties and obligations in the Bible, she sees that she is called to be a help-meet for her husband. She is called to serve him, and to assist him in his life and ministry. She is to be a blessing and a glory to Him. In other words, Her duty is to help her husband in his work OUTWARDS. A husband’s duty is to help His wife in her work INWARDS.
… and that is the shorthand version. I hope it helps.
I am your servant in Christ Jesus,